July, 2006

Ray of the Month: Support

Remember my search for the perfect Giraffe Nest? The search is over, and NVC trainer John "Pan" Chamberlin and I have leased a 1300 square feet space in Wallingford with a large classroom and a private office for each of us. We hope that you will come by for a visit! (You can be inspired to drop in for a trip to the NVC bookstore and library.)

From the signing of the lease to its now almost- finished stage, my need for support has been overwhelmingly met in various and delightful ways. And as is true for many situations, one need being met paves the way for other needs being met. One mother who recently came in for a private session was in touch with her need for ease but was still feeling quite agitated. I asked her, "If you had all the ease in the world, what would that bring you?" She replied, "Then I could finally relax." I further questioned, "And if you totally relaxed, what need would you be able to meet then?" and she replied quietly, "Then I would have peace."

Getting in touch with the layers of needs brought her into deeper connection with herself, transformed her anxiety, and increased her clarity and centeredness.
So it is with my need for support this month. My need for support fulfilled is, in and of itself, cause for celebration. But when it channels me into deeper needs being met, I am in awe of the power we all have to contribute to each other.
With regard to the recent move, I express my heartfelt appreciation to:

• my friend Jennifer and her son Rico, for the entire sanding/painting/clean up project, which meets my needs for beauty and inspiration
• my friend Doug, for the drywall project and the vision of quality, which meets my needs for beauty and structural integrity (of the wall)
• our friendly Qwest technician, for giving us some insider tips and "spare" equipment, which meets my needs for financial sustainability and connection
• my sister Emily, for assembling furniture, repotting plants, de-gooping the carpet and many other projects, which meets my needs for beauty and to fulfill my mission in life
• my sister Emily and mother Jody, Grandma Doris and Grandpa Bob, for taking care of my children, which meets my needs for community and love
• our feng shui practitioner, Janani, for blessing and laying out our space, which meets my needs for beauty, empowerment and harmony
• my business partner Pan, for hanging pictures and mirrors, setting up phone and internet communication systems, and for trusting my decorating decisions, which meets my needs for inspiration, connection, appreciation and trust
• my children Manny and Keziah, for weathering my countless trips to Lowe's and Ikea, and my increased absence from home, which meets my needs for autonomy and trust
• my husband Rich, for emergency key deliveries when I was stranded outside the office, hooking up light fixtures, carrying heavy items and countless other projects large and small, which meets my needs for safety and effectiveness
• all my clients and participants, without whose hunger for NVC and financial and moral support, I would not be able to make Radiant Relationships my life's work. I am bathing in the beauty of needs met for creativity, self- expression, contribution, connection, passion, love and spirituality.

At this moment, I feel peaceful and radiant. I have received so much, and I have so much to give. I am balanced in divine flow.